I'm going to resurrect this old question with a brand-new answer. Heads and blocks tend to be over cut and and you need to get back to stock dimensions. Toyota allows a total of 0.010" total removed from stock head and block. If you're not going to use a thicker stacked metal head gasket, you can get a cold rolled steel shim gasket from Innovative Machine & Supply. They are located in Missouri. Their most common on the shelf thickness is 20 thousandths, but you can also order 30, 40, and 60 thousandths by calling them. I put on a 0.020" Shim gasket under a stock Toyota head gasket 8 years and 30K miles ago without issues. For best results you need to have a freshly shaved block and spray the underside of the shim gasket with something like Permatex copper spray. Just the bottom of the shim, not the top where the head gasket will lay. And from experience, you might want to put a little dab of Permatex Black Ultra Silicone around the edges where the main round oil journals drain just before laying the head on and torquing it down. The standard new head thickness is 4.570". It's pretty easy to measure when the head is off with a vernier caliper. The other measurement is a little more difficult because you need to have the engine disassembled to get the measurement from the deck of the block and the saddle point of the main front bearing surface with the bearing out. If you're having your block shaved (and don't forget the front aluminum cover with it), the machine shop can get that number for you by request. The standard deck to saddle point distance is 7.815". You can run the numbers to see what thickness of shim gasket to get. The part number for the 0.020" gasket is HSTO30. Here is a link to their website:
https://www.innomach.com/cylinder-head-shims
One way to visually tell if a head has been cut down quite a bit is to look at the bottom of the thermostat standpipe attachment point. When it's new it's rounded, and as the head surface gets cut down repeatedly, it becomes flat. If you're going to purchase a head, keep an eye out for that.